12 ສັນຍານຂອງຄວາມສໍາພັນທີ່ມີສຸຂະພາບດີ

1. Love and care

The most important thing in a healthy relationship is sincere mutual love. Partners take care of each other both in words and in deeds, constantly demonstrating that they value and love each other.

2. ຄວາມຊື່ສັດ

In a healthy relationship, partners do not lie to each other and do not hide the truth. Such relationships are transparent, there is no place for deceit in them.

3. Willingness to accept a partner as he is

You’ve probably heard that you shouldn’t start a relationship hoping to change your partner over time. Whether it’s a very serious problem like a drug addiction or something as small as not washing the dishes all the time, if you expect him or her to behave differently, you’re likely to be disappointed.

Yes, people can and do change, but they themselves must want it. You cannot force your partner to change, no matter How long you love them.

4. ເຄົາລົບ

Mutual respect means that partners consider each other’s feelings and treat their partner the way they would like to be treated. Respect allows you to exclude situations when it seems to one of the partners that the second one puts pressure on him or tries to manipulate him. They are ready to listen to each other and respect the point of view of their partner.

5. Mutual assistance

Partners have common goals. They don’t try to put a spoke in each other’s wheels, they don’t compete, they don’t try to «beat» each other. Instead, mutual assistance and mutual support reign in the relationship.

6. Physical and emotional security

Partners do not feel wary or tense in each other’s presence. They know that they can rely on a partner in any situation. They do not have to fear that a partner can hit them, yell at them, force them to do something they do not want, manipulate them, humiliate them or shame them.

7. Mutual openness

A sense of security allows you to fully open up to a partner, which, in turn, makes the connection of partners deeper. They know they can share their deepest thoughts and secrets without fear of judgment.

8. Support for the individuality of the partner

Healthy attachment of partners to each other does not prevent them from setting their own goals in life and achieving them. They have personal time and personal space. They support each other, are proud of each other, and are interested in each other’s hobbies and passions.

9. Matching expectations

When the expectations of partners on the part of the relationship are very different, very often one of them is disappointed. It is important that the expectations of both are realistic and close to each other.

This applies to a variety of issues: how often they have sex, how they celebrate holidays, How long time they spend together, how they share household chores, and so on. If the views of partners on these and other issues differ greatly, it is very important to discuss the differences and find a compromise.

10. Willingness to forgive

In any relationship, partners happen to misunderstand each other and hurt each other — this is inevitable. If the “guilty” partner sincerely regrets what happened and really changes his behavior, he should be forgiven. If partners do not know how to forgive, over time, relationships will collapse under the weight of accumulated resentments.

11. Willingness to discuss any conflicts and contradictions

It’s easy to talk to your partner when everything is going well, but it’s more important to be able to constructively discuss any conflicts and grievances. In healthy relationships, partners always have the opportunity to tell each other what they are unhappy with or offended or disagree with — but in a respectful way.

They do not avoid conflicts and do not pretend that nothing happened, but discuss and resolve contradictions.

12. The ability to enjoy each other and life

Yes, building relationships is hard work, but they should also be fun. Why do we need a relationship if the partners are not happy with each other’s company, if they cannot laugh together, have fun and generally have a good time?

Remember that in a relationship, each of the partners not only takes something, but also gives. You have the right to expect your partner to comply with all of these rules, but you yourself must comply.