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Against the backdrop of travel, parties, premieres, endless smiles and hugs with loved ones and just as happy people, we begin to feel ourselves not lucky and worthy enough to live as easily and fulfillingly as our positive friends. “Don’t let your friend control your mood,” says clinical psychologist Andrea Bonior.

Studies have shown that social networking is most commonly associated with episodes of depression when when people begin to compare their lives with the lives of other people. And even if in the depths of our hearts we guess that the carefully calibrated images of «friends» are far from reality, their photos make us think about our not-so-bright everyday life.

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“First, stop mindlessly browsing Facebook (an extremist organization banned in Russia) at any free moment,” says Andrea Bonior. If you have installed his application on your mobile phone, this makes it easy to access the site every time. And as a result, it spoils the mood with an endless comparison of someone else’s, flaunted by the most advantageous aspects of life and one’s own.

«You torture yourself and it turns into a masochistic habitshe says. — Create an obstacle on the way to the social network. Let it be a complex password and login that must be entered every time you enter the site. By following this path, you tune in to the information and begin to view the feed more meaningfully and critically. In this case, it will be easier for you not to fall into the trap of someone else’s desire to assert yourself at any cost.

Identify «irritants»

There are probably specific people in the friend feed who make you feel worse. Think about exactly what weak spots they attack with their messages? Perhaps this feeling of insecurity about their appearance, health, work, behavior of children?

Find out what exactly makes you feel worse, and you can eliminate the root cause of these feelings. This will require internal work, which will take time. But right now, blocking messages from people who provoke a sense of their own inadequacy would be the first and emergency step in helping yourself. To do this, it is not necessary to exclude them from your feed — just scroll through such posts.

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“If the news that one of your friends has been promoted makes you think about the precarious position that you have at work, it’s time to start doing something,” says Andrea Bonior. Make a short-term and long-term plan of exactly what you could do right now: finalize your resume, let friends in your field know that you are starting to look for a new job, look at vacancies. It may make sense to talk to management about career prospects. One way or another, once you feel like you are in control of the situation, and not just going with the flow, you will more easily perceive other people’s victories.

Make an appointment!

If you fall into the virtual trap of someone’s life, which seems to you richer and more successful, you probably haven’t seen this friend for a long time. Invite him for a cup of coffee.

“A personal meeting will convince you: your interlocutor is a real person, not a glossy picture, he does not always look perfect and he also has his own difficulties,” says Andrea Bonior. “And if he really has a cheerful nature, you might find it helpful to hear what makes him feel better.”

Such a meeting will return you a sense of reality.

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In addition to cheerful posts, every day we are faced with someone’s misfortune. Turn to these people and, if possible, help them. Like gratitude meditation, feeling needed also helps us feel more fulfilled and happier. It reminds us that there are those who can have a much harder time right now and should be grateful for what we have.